Get Back With Your Ex Recipe

Question: Would you ever get back with your ex?

(Posted by: tashaMari on 2010-03-09 19:52:48)

I was madly in love with this guy since i was like 9 or 10 but i was young and nothing came of it, it was just passed of as a crush. But when i was 14 we got into a relationship (wasn't anything serious at that age though) we were together for almost 2 yrs then i broke up with him for this tard and the relationship barely lasted 9 months. THAT WAS THE WORST MISTAKE I EVER MADE!! We didn't talk for a lil over 2 yrs and now we are talking again. I never really stopped loving him but we just weren't on good terms. He kinda wants us to pick up where we left off those two yrs ago, what should should i do?

Posted by: Ash on 2010-03-10, 07:13:39

If he is willing and so are you, go for it, You were younger, people make mistakes. It makes us human. BUT you can't pick up where you left off because you broke up, you must start over, you both are older and more mature now, and it will be easier to work through problems together! I was in a similiar situation, and it worked great for us, I hope, if you choose to try again, it will work great for you too! Feel free to email me if you have questions or need help/ advice! :: ashleyyy9311@yahoo.com XashenkX@aol.com Good Luck! Hope all works out well!! :) Yours Truly Ash

Posted by: Leah on 2010-03-09, 19:55:04

No. If it didnt work out the first time it probably wont the next...

Posted by: Shawn on 2010-03-09, 19:55:29

Don't do it... if you had doubts before, you will have them again. Simple as that. It's hard to let people go, but there is always somewhere better for you out there (remember that).

Posted by: The Butterfly on 2010-03-09, 19:55:32

If you feel like you should and your relationship would benefit from being together again, then do it! I personally would not get back with any of my exes (all but two turned out to be huge jerks), but if i felt a connection with a former crush than i would probably try and see what comes from it.

Posted by: priceless on 2010-03-09, 19:55:33

You cant reall pick up from where you left off. you did dump him for someone else and even though he might think its no big deal, those feeling will come back. you have to make sure you talk about it so it doesnt come up as a big issue if and when you guys get back together. make sure he knows that you know what you did and wont do it again

Posted by: Psych_major on 2010-03-09, 19:57:17

No. all my exes are wh0res. I know that sounds mean but all 3 of them cheated on me and are now married. my latest one is 19, married a dude at 18 and moved in with his mom. she didn't even wear a white dress to her wedding and her parents never knew their daughter got married.

Posted by: M V on 2010-03-09, 19:58:02

In this case, I say that getting back with your ex is a good decision. You guys were young when you initially started dating and sometimes the timing is just off. Now that you have some experience and even dated another guy, you can truly appreciate your ex. Just take things slowly like in any relationship and see where it can take you. As long as he didn't hurt you physically or emotionally, then I'm sure that things will work themselves out. Good Luck!

Posted by: Answer on 2010-03-09, 19:58:04

What has been done is done. You learned your lesson and it is great that you are now on speaking terms with him. It might be good to rush into dating, but I think that you should start off as friends. Take it slow, you haven't seen each other for ages and of course you both have changed, mentally and physically. Get to know each other again and if it feels right after awhile then go for it.

Posted by: jess on 2010-03-09, 19:58:28

It's reasonable. Go for it and try it again. If the sparks are there then that's great, but if they were just the childish emotions you can move on. You have nothing to lose. = )

Posted by: Gumbi on 2010-03-09, 19:58:44

I have a strict "don't go there twice " rule, even if I was the one who did the heart breaking (which I usually do, I'm emotionally unstable, but that is unimportant) If you gave him up once you could do it again, but then again you might not because you know how your life feels without him and you want him, go for it. Nothing can stop you.

Posted by: KArMA on 2010-03-09, 20:01:15

Well girl u have to ask urself why did u break up with him in the first place?? im guessing because u were young and wanted to explore around with guys a bit, which is completely naturally i know how it is. but u are older now, and yea things change, and u also feel remorse [regret] for breaking up with him, also saying that it was ur worst mistake. well its not like he did anything wrong, so hell why not?? u only live once, and no one knows fursure how long they will really live, so i say go for it, the worse that can happen is that u come to the conclusion that u dont want to be with him that way, and then badddaboom, lesson learned. everything has a lesson, a moral, go for it.

Posted by: Debra R on 2010-03-09, 20:08:55

Hi TM, If you stop loving him and years passed and you didn't talk. Someimes ex need to mean ex. There are times when you break up and you really weren't broken up. In your case you should he is your ex keep it that way. Don't make him think you are getting back with him.