Get Back With Your Ex Recipe

Question: Is it possible to get back with your ex?

(Posted by: Joshua p on 2010-07-12 05:23:24)

SO currently me and my ex have been improving on our ability to connect and communicate. We dated at a pretty young age I'm pretty sure its safe to say we were both each others first love. She broke it off with me because I was trying to date other girls, we got into a ton of fights and basically it was a sorry fest for like a couple months she was crying allot because she didn't want to hurt me but had no idea what was going on and it just kind of went down the tube. Well anyhow that has been the past for at least 5- 6 years. We have always kept in touch with one another but over the years of high school we kinda drifted apart to different crowds and became different people . I dated someone else for at least a year and my ex was happy for me. Same for her she's been dating someone for allot longer 3 years now I think maybe 4 who's she's currently with. I always felt that she was waiting for me to change or something but every time she let me in I hurt her again. I was pretty immature for sometime. Well I went to college I broke up with the girl I was with and I continued talking to my first love. We use to talk on the phone allot but then I vocally criticized her and insulted her. (I know im a douche bag) So she never wanted to talk on the phone but always answers my texts and will text me for days. Anyways its been another 2 and half years since I first started going to college. I've been through allot and I've been single for 2 years (well sorta I dated here and there but it wasn't anything special) So I feel that I have changed and Im thinking about the possibility of her and me. about a year ago I was living a few hours away from her and I texted her about us. and she said that we should be friends. And that she always wanted to be friends but every time she tried to be friends I'd ask her out. So now that she told me this I told myself I had to move on. so we didn't talk for a while. Well my mom passed away in october so I went back home and started going to the community college and this is the first time in 3 years that I have seen my ex in person and every time we saw one another I was extremely respectful and nice I never made her feel uncomfortable and I walked her out to her car from time to time and I made sure to say hi to her in front of all my friends. well one day I thought it would be a improvement for her and me to just go and get tea. I asked her to tea and it took her a while to just text me and say I didnt want to hang out because I didnt really know you and were so different now. I told her well of course its been like 6 years. And you wanted to be friends right. well she said yes but told me sorry I cant do it right now. and that hurt me really bad. So I told myself forget it I didn't want anything to deal with someone that wont even try to be my friend. So the remainder of my time I ignored her when I saw her and it feel really awkward doing it because I know she was confused and I didn't like it. Well anyhow its been 6 months and we started talking again. She's very interested in what Im doing, shes really nice and really funny and I feel like were making improvement as two people knowing one another she texts me still only and I feel comfortable with that to because I didn't wanna rush things really. And she still with her current bf but is okay with me calling her hun and dear and texts me randomly. But what I wanna know is what should I look for in making it possible for us to date again? or is that even reasonable? I do like her still, she is the closest to spiritually and mentally attractive as I have ever been close to and I feel that we have the possibility to be great partners.

Posted by: chebet on 2010-07-12, 05:46:29

Hi, my dear friend all that has happend to many of us. It could be of being alone that makes you want to go back to her, but remember it feel good to get back together but it is a risky for you because we girls, once we fall in love we forget about our past so fast. getting back is so possible though if she in a relationship it will be hard for her to quit. if she truly loved u go for that chance. "try and leave it to go, if it comes back to you its yours " me I wish you the best. if you love her go for her. relationships its about trial, until you get a success. its like geometric probability

Posted by: julia R on 2010-07-12, 05:28:00

Ur lonely and not thinking straight. if she wanted to be with you she would. but shes with another man. you will get back together again but u will finally realise she wasnt the girl for you and you still need to date other girls. REAL big time waster but something you will and need to learn.

Posted by: Dee on 2010-07-12, 05:33:57

Well, she could just really like you only as a friend. But, you could find out by just letting her know that you still would like to see her but the last time you asked she said no so you don't want to bring it up again. But, just let her know that if she ever does want to hang out that you would like to. There isn't really much else you can do. But maybe you could do extra nice things for her like when you see her, give her something. A CD, a flower something that you know she would like etc...Let her talk to you about anything. Build up trust with her. Texting could be done with anyone. Who knows she could be texting a lot of different people, not just you. I would never settle for just texting. The only way to break through to the next level is to see her face to face or at least talk on the phone.